Relationships And Marriage

Are you feeling unfulfilled in your relationship or marriage?

Are you tired of having the same fights over and over again with no resolution?

Is everything in your lives taking priority over your relationship?

Has a betrayal rocked your relationship and made you question everything you once thought you knew about your partner?

How do you know your relationship is not working and needs help?

Most of us grow up thinking that when magic of love brings two people together, life becomes so beautiful and perfect that there will be no room for unhappiness. You dream that one day your prince charming will come, you fall in love, get married and live happily ever after just like your favorite Disney fairy tale or romantic Hollywood movie. Although these myths sounds sweet in the fantasy world but they don’t exist in the real world. Fairy tales are lovely and romantic movies are entertaining, but they are far from reality. They are in fact very dangerous because they promote dreaming of the impossible relationships and unrealistic love to such an extent that one loses all touch with reality.

You keep dreaming and searching and dreaming again, until one day you find your soulmate, fall in love and finally get married. If you are lucky you get to enjoy your honeymoon stage to the fullest and get to walk on the Cloud 9. But then for some odd reason that you can’t quiet figure it out, you can’t get through the week without getting into a fight. You feel lost, angry, confused and like a failure wondering how you got here? You don’t know when and how you developed toxic communication patterns and drifted apart so much that you don’t even recognize love and compassion for your partner. You thought you knew who your partner was but now everything has changed. This person is not who you signed up to be with in the beginning. When did your partner become this person? It might have started from somewhere; somewhere that you can’t even remember but all you know is that you can’t continue your relationship or marriage like this because:

Minor conversations turn into major explosions
You fight constantly
You’re afraid to speak up and start a fight
You have nothing to talk about anymore
You don’t trust each other
Jealousy is a constant undercurrent
One or both of you wants to change the other
Your sex life isn’t what it used to be
One or both of you thinks that the other is too needy
You fear you’re in a toxic relationship
You’re starting to notice other women/men more than before

We’ve all been there where struggling through a relationship in which we thought our partner was “the one”, but later found ourselves frustrated by the conflict and started to have doubts. Things started going really bad when your partner seemed to be pushing every one of your buttons that he/she knew, and you, who might have reacted harshly to those triggers, started feeling ashamed and guilty of your reactions. Then later, your shame and guilt turns to constant self blame and resentment. You stop expressing what is bothering you because you are scared to bring things up again and fight. You feel like you are on an emotional roller coaster over and over again, and you can’t end your misery. All you want is to be in love as you were in the beginning of your relationship. However, your relationship is stuck in an unhealthy cycle and you cannot break that cycle. You and your partner treat each other like enemies not partners who are on the same team. You rarely give each other the benefit of the doubt and walk on eggshells, second guessing everything you say, for the fear that it will be taken the wrong way if you expressed your feelings. You feel hurt and lost but you’re not ready to give up. After all, you love your partner. Although your relationship might feel difficult to maintain, you know it is worth saving it. But how?

THAT'S WHEN COUNSELING COMES TO RESCUE

IN COUNSELING YOU WILL:

Get an in-depth assessment to learn about the strength of your relationship & areas to grow.
Understand why you keep having the same fights over and over again, and then stop it once and for all.

Begin to have empathy for one another.

Start to see each other as allies rather than enemies.

Increase intimacy and sexual desire. Bring back the romance and passion!

Recognize and change the unconscious patterns from childhood that are impacting your relationship.

Learn valuable communication skills to connect better.

Express your needs and set healthy boundaries in a safe environment.

Recover from betrayal and rebuild trust.

Start to have fun and laugh with each other again instead of walking on eggshells.

Learn how to communicate effectively so that you both feel heard without having to yell or fight.
Gain clarity on whether or not you want to stay together.
Stop bickering and fighting about absolutely nothing.

Make your relationship a priority again. Carve out time to reconnect as a couple.

Couples therapy can help.

WHAT ARE YOU WAITING FOR?